For instance, when E came home, it was a seamless transition. Such a loving girl, thirsty for love. It was a good thing she was such a sweet, good baby as this single mom didn't know one end of a baby from the other. She made my job very simple. She was easy to love.
When O came home, she brought with her emotional baggage. She was very angry for reasons I will probably never know. Perhaps I was as much of the problem during those first years we were together in that I made assumptions about why she had the temper tantrums she had. We had a rocky start. Now, she is my shadow. When she smiles, her eyes twinkle brighter than any star you will ever find on a clear, dark night.
When we met C in China, she was not all that happy to be with us and cried for several days (pretty much nonstop.) But once home, she is a happy, easy baby who, on occasion, can be stubborn but never holds a grudge. She is funny and freely gives her love unconditionally.
So where does that leave us? I know many who read this may think my response is one you would expect from Pollyanna. But I must be honest...yes, there are days that are difficult, but they are becoming few and far between. Yes, I am often exhausted and my nerves are worn to a frazzle at the end of the day, but when I tuck my sleeping beauties in long after they are asleep, my heart aches with love and pride that they are mine and the weariness of the day seems to melt away. Bottomline, they are regular kids with individual personalities that sometimes mesh and sometime clash. None the less, I would not trade one day, good or bad, with these girls for anything in the world.
So, I guess I have intentionally used this blog to share a few of the hard moments, but mostly share with the world the awesome power of God's grace and love. We like to throw around the addage that love conquers all. I think that in the end, that is true. However, there are often times where we must cling to the faith and hope that love never fails. On occasion, I have had different people remark about the extraordinary thing I have done in adopting these 3 girls. I must disagree. I am by no means extraordinary. I am just an ordinary single woman who is blessed beyond her wildest dreams to get in on the ground floor of an incredible act of God to not just show His love for 3 little girls, but He also shows His love to me. He created a family not just for the girls, but for me as well. Now THAT is extraordinary.
So, since I am fairly certain that my words have failed to portray the depth of love and admiration I have for 3 little girls that I am so glad to call my own daughters, I will end this post with a few pictures so that you can see my precious ones through my eyes. I hope that you can see the love for each other that they genuinely share as well as the joy and life that God has shed abroad in their hearts.
7 comments:
So, truly amazing! Miss getting to see the girls as often as we did last year, hope the new school/job is going well! Bella would love to schedule a play date with E sometime. Blessings!
What a beautiful post. And I know exactly what you mean. Some day I want to meet you and your wonderful family.
That brought tears to my eyes. It's a beautiful essay and a wonderful testament to your three beautiful daughters, and, yes, to you as well. It's publishable. As always, love the pix of your girls. Like Lynn, I would love to meet you and your family some day.
God does do strange and wonderful things at times. Strange in the fact that at least I would have never dreamed about adopting two amazing little girls from China 10 years ago. And look at me now. Just like you I'm amazed at His love for me and my now family and for bringing us all together. And I'm amazed at the journey that's lead me here and the wonderful people I've 'met' along that journey. Thanks for letting me peek inside your world and thanks for sharing your amazing daughters with us.
Deborah, this post is wonderful. Makes one realize how special our adventures have been.
I know that even though our Wendy was a special treat with accepting us right off.
I do know that Evan will probably mourn just as C had, but our children are true gifts. Our Friendships we have made through this incredible journey also are wonderful gifts.
Beautiful posts, and as usual your daughters don't disappoint with their smiles.
Thanks for sharing your precious daughters with us, the amazing gifts God has given you and your lives together. I do think you are extraordinary, however, to lay your life down and make so many daily (sometimes minute by minute!) sacrifices.......as many parents do all over the world each day. I admire and respect all of you!
Beautiful words, and beautiful daughters and momma. I too, am a single momma of three, two boys and one daughter (from Qing Dao,in China) and am adopting a second daughter (Ethiopia). God is good, when he puts the lonely in families. Glad I found your blog.
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